The Magic of Owning Your Story

 "When we deny the story, it defines us. When we own the story, we can write a brave new ending." - Brene Brown

Foreword and Introduction

Have you ever thought of your life being like a novel (or movie?) Those interesting 
characters, unexpected events, maybe just a bit of drama, some humor, and the full range of human experience that sometimes gave you the feeling that you may have lived many lifetimes in one? How about a Shakespeare play?  A Greek myth? The comedy, tragedy, depth of emotion and insight, love and betrayal, twists of fate, depth of feeling and reflections on life? To be or not to be? 

Imagine having an insight or "aha moment" about something that happened in your past that causes you to completely "own" or fully accept that experience on a whole new level, with love and joy.  Imagine having many of these insights and moments. What does it mean to you to "own your story"? How does our story define us if we deny parts of it? How can we write a "brave new ending"? How can we be empowered as a result of  "loving ourselves through the process" of owning our story? Not only is owning our story individually important, but collectively owning our story is also important.

How about this quote to add to the reflections of your life or how others view their life as a story?

"I did not witness the  most important parts of my life. My deepest story must be told by a blind man, a prisoner of sound. From behind a wall, from underground. From the corner of a small house on a small island that juts like a bone from the skin of sea."
~ Fugitive Pieces : A Novel

We know the parts of our story that we want to remember. What about those parts of our "deepest story" that we are blind to, or do not choose to see? By owning our story, is it possible to see them? And maybe have our sight restored as insights?

If we were telling our story to ourselves or others, what would it be like if it was told by a blind man or woman? What would they see from what they heard? What do we need to see in order to fully own our story? What is the next new chapter in your life, or are you already living in it now?

Chapter One and Beyond

I love the description of our life as a story, since I also love novels, and of course sometimes "truth is stranger than fiction". There is magic in owning our story. We own our story when we accept ourselves - our past, our present, our quirky personality traits as well as our gifts and talents.

Especially the past, where regrets can be seen as unexpected blessings in disguise, lessons learned from past failures and mistakes, karma burned, life lived deeply or on the surface, love, challenges, marriage, divorce, loss of loved ones, births, rites of passage, forgiveness, and the full range of experiencing life.

We also accept others whose stories have been or are a part of our story. We love, miss, regret, forgive, let go, embrace memories, shed tears, laugh or cry.

Loving ourselves while we are in the process of owning our story is a brave thing to do, since this process may be ongoing, and not become a "been there done that" mindset that may not allow further growth, change, and deeper experiences of life.

"Owning our stories is standing in our truth. It’s transformative in our personal and professional lives AND it’s also critical in our community lives. But we don’t think about history as our collective story."
- Brene Brown

What if that is already starting to happen now? Collectively owning the story of humanity. Imagine the potential for transformation on a larger scale. As John Lennon sang in the song Imagine, "you may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one".

Yet there is much sadness, tragedy, suffering and injustice in our collective story of humanity. How can we even began to fully acknowledge it much less "own" it?  We might have to think of the quantum physics of the process. The "butterfly effect". Where a small change can have an effect on larger ones. (See wikipedia definition )

Perhaps we can all become butterflies metaphorically, and flap our wings with thoughts of owning our collective story.

Perhaps if we view the world as chaos, with ever increasing problems, and no end in sight for the collision course we have set, we can accept an invitation to either be a part of the problem or a part of the solution, beginning with our thoughts, our story, and the transformation that can happen.

Imagine the transformation that can happen, both individually and collectively. Let's start now to write our brave new ending as a legacy to those stories that will be written long after we are living our new stories on the other side.

We can write a brave new ending, and also a brave new beginning then.


Fugitive Pieces by Anne Michaels

The Book Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

Change Our Story About Our History
Magical, Mystical, Mexico Adventure - a blog by David Lawrence Brown

Nosso Lar - Life in the Spirit World

"My life is like a book. I can write new chapters with new words and titles. I can evoke my own inspiration from writing affirmations, prayers, journal entries, blogs, articles, stories, and even my own book. I can write just for myself to journal my thoughts and feelings as a creative process. I can also do this as therapy, as a fun exercise, and as a way to chronicle my own journey through life."~ David Lawrence Brown. 333 Keywords to Change Your Life